And I've done it again!

Okay, this is the website I'll stay at: Wordpress won the battle.

http://srhknight.wordpress.com/

I've moved!

My new site... http://srhknight.tumblr.com/

May She Count the Hours. (my attempt at writing, just for fun :)

She walked through the doorway with the keys in her fist, closed her eyes, and inhaled a deep breath. Calm yourself. Breathe. The clock against the wall  ticked away, tiredly. It had been a long day, a very long day, and oh was it good to be home. She reached down and slid her hand along her calve into the side of one black boot and slipped it off, then the other. They clattered as she kicked them aside. Her feet ached from the walking, but at least they had air again. Shit, what a day. A yielding pillow on the couch greeted her as she fell forward, pushed her face into it, and screamed. Her eyes watered slightly as her body crumpled beneath her against the cushions.

She sucked in another breath and felt air fill her lungs. Her forehead pressed further into the embroidered pillow from her body weight. Maybe if she tried hard enough, the embroidered image would engrave itself onto her face. She rolled to her side. God was she hungry. Her reflection in the black television screen was the most pathetic image. Curly blonde hair that stuck to her forehead, wet with tears. Her mascara was smeared. She closed her eyes. She moved her hand up to hold it against her chest in order to feel its rise and fall.

May she count the hours, may she count the time spent pursuing this pointless dream.  Her hand felt cold against the flesh of her chest.  The time wasted, thrown into the bin to be carried away by the next garbage truck. They came every Tuesday-- at least the time hadn’t festered. Silence pervaded, save for the sounds of her breathing and some footsteps on the floor above.

The scratching of metal on metal brought her to open her eyes. Bright light spread across the room as he opened the door. She squinted.

“Hello.”

“Hey,” she said, her face expressionless and her eyes red. She was still in the fetal position.

“What’s up?” His brow furrowed from concern. She felt his green eyes boring into her. He was still holding his black leather briefcase as he stood in the doorway.

She inhaled again. Her gulp of air sounded raspy. “Oh, nothing really.”

Why did he have to have such a penetrating gaze? She stared at him and felt herself tense as she tried to hold back her tears.

“Anna?”

“Oh God, Parker, I’m so over life.” The dam she had built burst as she pushed herself to sit up. Dammit. She hated it when she cried.

He set his briefcase next to the door before he shut it. He didn’t say anything. He simply strode across the room and put his arms gingerly around her. She pressed herself into him and felt his warm breath disturb the wispy hairs above the nape of her neck. He smelled of Old Spice. Her body shook slightly as she tried to recompose herself. She felt safe though, being held.

“Everything will be okay.” His voice seemed to reverberate throughout her body. The shoulder of his suit was soft.

Flashes of the woman squeezed their way into her mind. The woman had stared at the checkered floor and wrung her frail hands.  “Why couldn’t you save her?” she asked.

“I tried,” said Anna. “There wasn’t anything more we could do.”

“What did you say?” She felt his body pull away from her. His hands settled on her hips as he faced her. Questioning concern spread across his face. She hated it when he looked concerned. She hated it when she felt this helpless.

“I tried,” She gasped. Tears ran down her cheeks as the lump reformed in her throat. The little girl with the freckles spread across her nose stared at her from over his shoulder. She forced herself to look away. Why was this so bad? Deaths happen. She was a doctor, that’s how it was. Sometimes there was nothing you could do, and you move on. But this one, this one was bad. Time of death: 12:15 pm. She was her youngest patient. Five years old. Why couldn’t she figure out what was wrong with her? Despite the years of schooling, she couldn’t figure it out.

“Anna, I’m sure you don’t want to talk about it, but I’m here for you if you need it.” His voice was soothing. He tightened his grip on her hips and continued to watch her.  She nodded.

“I know.” The words came out watery, like cold soup. Her eyes traveled upward from the spot on the hardwood floor she had chosen to focus on, next to his knee. The girl was still there. Her pale-pink lips pulled back slightly into a half-smile. Her golden eyes danced. Anna stared, stone-faced, the tears slowly evaporating to leave a slight salty crust. Finally, the girl turned and walked away to disappear into the hallway, towards the bedroom. Parker turned his head to follow her gaze, his hands still upon her. He felt stable. He felt real.

“What are you looking at?” At least she wasn’t afraid. Then he would be truly concerned, if she was afraid. The fear would have shown in her expression. She didn’t say anything. She had wanted to accomplish something, to heal, to fix things, to fix people. She had wanted to make an impact, to change something. She had wanted to go to Africa, to work with AIDS, but instead she stayed. She accepted the job at the hospital thinking it would be easier for Parker, easier for him to keep his firm and to adjust to her new work schedule.

May she count the hours that she spent walking the floors of the hospital. May she count the days she wore the white coat with her name embroidered on it: Dr. Sorin. She invested her life into that position, into those people, but she had failed.

He still looked concerned. Stop it.

“I’ll get you a cup of tea. Honey chamomile. Is that okay?” He pushed his hands against the corner of the couch and rose from his knees. They must be sore from sitting in that position for so long. The warmth of his hands lingered. Her neck crackled slightly as she looked up at the clock. It had only been three minutes, but it had felt like so much longer. Time was going by so slowly today.

Where had the girl gone? She blinked.

“Are you sure you don’t want to talk about it?” His deep voice echoed from the kitchen. The clink of a coffee mug hitting the granite countertop resounded across the vaulted ceiling. She had picked those out herself, those countertops. The color looked so nice set against the dark cherry-wood cabinets.

“Today was just… “ Her voice still sounded like she was gargling. She cleared her throat, it felt sore. “Gross, that’s all.” There were a few beeps and the microwave sighed. She didn’t want to talk about it, recounting it made it real. Made the death real, made the mother with the fragile looking hands real, made the pain real. The mother. She had brown, thick hair like the daughter. The daughter had had her mouth. Should she call her? What would that do, there’s no point, she had done all she could. “I’ll be fine, really.”

The timer went off to say that the tea was done. She heard the slam of the microwave door. A few seconds later he appeared in the kitchen doorway. She watched his green eyes intently. He looked her up and down as he brought the mug over to her. He was analyzing her. He was good at that, analyzing people. He was a lawyer after all; he knew how to manipulate people to get them to say what he wanted. But she knew him, and she recognized what he was doing.

“Alright, are you sure?” No, I don't think so. She realized she was still holding her keys in a tight fist and she tossed them toward the low table a few feet away. They soared through the air with an ugly jingling sound and landed with a thud.
 His eyes were still searching as he carefully handed her the mug. It was hot to the touch. She could still feel. The girl couldn’t.

“Yes,” she said firmly. She was such a good actress when she needed to be. 

Bleh

I sat and I ate and I ate and I sat and I tried to write my essay. And it rained. Then I got distracted and went on Facebook and wrote right here. Snack? Popcorn with cheddar cheese shredded on top. Yes. Ugh, can't think of anything... Switch it up. Do some Ochem problem sets. Give the right side of your brain a rest.
Oh, rainy days.
 

Glory in Suffering.

I wielded my umbrella like a weapon today, but I was definitely on the losing side. "I'LL FIND JOY IN MY SUFFERINGS!" we yelled, splashing through the deep puddles and streams that littered Sproul Plaza. Everybody around us, with their green, black, polka-dotted umbrellas and rain boots were probably staring at us, but we didn't sense them. They were melancholy in this terrible weather, we were not. My cheeks and chin stung from the freezing wind. The rain came in slanting sheets, pulling my brilliantly red umbrella in every direction I didn't want it to go. Our ridiculous laughter hung through the wet air.
We separated. I walked toward Tolman, toward the apartment. My feet made little impact upon the flowing rivers engulfing the concrete. As I rounded the corner of the large, bulging concrete of the Psych building, a scene of red and black vehicles and flashing lights greeted me. I stared, wide eyed. Keep moving, don't stop and stare. The black boots on her feet protruded beneath the brown jacket they had lain over her to keep out the rain and wind. There was a thick, dark branch laying across the sidewalk and I had to gingerly step over it as I passed. Her muffled voice came from beneath the jacket. The man leaning over her had his hand placed gingerly on her side in a gesture of comfort. The muscles of my neck strained as I glanced back repeatedly. No blood. She must be okay. No ambulance, another good sign. I minded my own business and my legs continued to carry me to the stop light, though I continued to glance over my shoulder. I was consumed by the innate human need to know what was going on. I wanted the story. I pushed my way up Arch Street as the sound of sirens filled my ears and my wet pants stuck to my calves.
I was returning home from bible study. We studied Romans 5, a few lines of which state, "we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; ⁴ perseverance, character; and character, hope. ⁵ And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us." My friend and I suffered the terrible weather with joy, yet that poor woman was hit by a wayward tree branch. I wonder if she found glory in that. I have to say, I smiled inwardly because so many people at least stopped to help her, and her voice had sounded slightly cheerful. God was watching. There is hope in humanity and hope does not put us to shame.
The pale, jade green of the legs of my pants were a dark shade of forest by the time I fell breathlessly into the door of my apartment. My shoes felt like sponges- disgusting, smelly sponges. I gave up avoiding puddles about five minutes into the downpour. My roommate had said, "You look... tired," as I passed her on the balcony on my way to the door. Ha, thanks.

Again, please ignore the videos and just pay attention to the music. (Okay watch the carrot flowers one because it's pretty funny :)

Red Umbrella by Forest Sun <- link because I couldn't find a good video version on Youtube.

A Mellifluous Cacophony

The string quivers, letting out a soft, deep note. My fingers caress the bridge, I close my eyes as I sense the vibrations of the horse-hairs of the bow. They run along the metallic strand, sending delicious sounds into the dense melodic atmosphere. Another violinist and I stand side by side; our two instruments send out intertwining reverberations, one high, one low, then vice versa. I play deep, long lasting notes while the guitars, basses, voices, and piano envelope my eardrums.
The lead belts out the chorus while other voices harmoniously join him, "Come thou fount of... every blessing... tune my heart to sing thy grace..."

The band generally plays more contemporary songs, but I absolutely adore the classics. "Before the Throne of God Above" is gorgeous, same with "Amazing Grace," and there's another but I can't place the name of it. I closed my eyes and just felt the music. I played the notes that I felt were right, and everybody seemed impressed. I could have sworn I heard the notes before I played them (or it could have been the piano). When playing with no guide, I really began to appreciate the sound of the violin and my music definitely had more soul.  I've always adhered to sheet music, and to say the least, when I was given the opportunity to just play I was intimidated. But, now that I've experienced it, with a full band, simply playing really is the best form of music.  Nothing else inhabits your abdominal and chest cavities the way a soulful note does, like a warm liquid filling an empty mug. I recommend you try it sometime.

On a side note, it didn't rain this morning after all. It hailed a little, but I was in lecture and only heard of the aftermath from a friend who had suffered through it. Sometimes it's good to hear you've missed something.

In a bout of scholarly fervor this afternoon, I began the major declaration process. I have yet to fill out paperwork and speak with an advisor, but I did complete the online application. I will soon be able to officially name myself a Molecular and Cell Biology major with an emphasis in Immunology. Then, once I speak with an English department advisor, I can tack on an English Minor. I smiled today when I began looking at upper-div classes: genetics lab, microbiology lab, immunology lab, pathogenesis of infectious diseases, differentiation of T lymphocytes, the genetics of cancer, biochemistry. So many amazing things. The legitimacy has begun, no more prereqs for me. One more semester and one more summer, then I'm home free to study what I came here for.

Oh Yes I Did.

Okay, in a spur of the moment crazy attack, I added my blog link to my Facebook page. We'll see what happens. Maybe nothing? I decided to remain under the radar, so I removed the notification on my wall that notified humanity I had changed my website. I also haven't told a soul that the link is up. Hopefully this won't be too tumultuous...

Also, here's a mushy moment as a carry-over from V-Day, but really sweet nonetheless:

Pg 286 Half of a Yellow Sun by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

"…she asked, 'Why do you love him?'

                Olanna looked up. Her mind was a blank board. 'Why do I love him?'

                Edna raised her eyebrows, mouthing but not singing Billie Holiday’s words.

                'I don’t think love has a reason,' Olanna said.

                'Sure it does.'

                'I think love comes first and then the reasons follow. When I am with him, I feel that I don’t need anything else.' Olanna’s words surprised her, but the startling truth brought the urge to cry."

I think I'm too obsessed with finding reasons...

Furthermore, the weather is really gross. Generally I love storms, just not when I have to trudge to my 8 am lecture the next morning - clothes and bag dripping wet, my face plastered with a pathetic frown. It better not be like this tomorrow. The heavens are currently thrashing against the tiny window of my room. Wind, rain, thunder, maybe hail? The rain sounds like hail, though it probably isn't. Can't be cold enough for hail. God must be punishing me for posting the link for this blog on Facebook.

Two Dash Fourteen

Dinner with friends on Valentine's Day, Single's Awareness Day, just another 2/14, whatever you want to call it, is definitely the best route to take.  No attempts to hold hands, or to stare into one another's eyes. No awkward silences, just Kung Pao Chicken, Smoked Tea Duck with Chinese Buns, Hunan Beef, Braised Eggplant with Garlic Sauce, and Sweet and Sour Pork. Then Icii's ice cream. My flavor of choice: Ginger Caramel Swirl Pecan. Delicious. Who needs men when you can have friends and food?

This has love written all over it.

Valentines Day is.... frustrating. I'm not bothered by the fact that I'm single. I've been single on Valentine's Day for the past twenty years. Really, what bothers me is that the stupid holiday is so contrived. Card, flower, and chocolate companies exploit relationships and infatuation.  Of course, this is the girl who freaked out when a guy gave her a flower, or who can never seem to be satisfied with any normal man, but come on. I guess maybe this is the romantic side of me spilling out, but why can't people act like that everyday? Why do couples need a holiday to profess their love for one another? Can't they go out to dinner and enjoy each other's company and exchange gifts every other day of the year?
Couples, in general, are... ugh. There are two girls I know, for example, who talk about their boyfriends constantly, then consider cheating on them or breaking up with them in order to "broaden their horizons," romantically speaking. They go on and on about how they can't wait for their boyfriend to call them, then they talk to another guy on the phone for two hours. Then when the poor lover calls, they hang up on him or hit "ignore." What is that? Are they just doing this to flaunt the fact that they're in a relationship? Or is this how it should be? I disagree, there's something wrong. Granted, I know some amazing couples as well, the if-they-break-up-the-world-will-end sort of couples.
My view is that if you are planning on investing time and emotional energy into someone, then they had better be the right person. No dating around for the hell of it. Make sure it means something.
I want to be absolutely sure that the decision I've made is right. Any guy who manages to hold my interest for more than two weeks deserves an award. I'm not bitter, I'm only annoyed.

Here's how the research lab email extravaganza finished off:


Dear Michael,

I'm sorry to hear that, but I completely understand. I just wanted to say thank you so much for your time and for the interview. I loved hearing about the research- it definitely reaffirmed my interest in and love for immunology! I will work on gaining more experience and skills, and I will keep an eye out for future research in the Riley Lab.

Sincerely,

Sarah Knight

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Great - I'm glad you found it interesting. Regarding future research,
we'll be here (or down in the Li Ka Shing building, when it's done!). Do
check back because we will probably need more help as the project evolves
and potentially expands.

All the best,
Michael

The future is looking better, I just need some damn experience.

On an even better note, ochem lab went well today. I managed to obtain a large crop of crystals and didn't spray anything across the lab bench. I stabbed myself with a clean capillary, and the pain and the mark were inconsequential. The reaction I performed today ended in a red solution, so I was a little V-Day spirited. Although the students at the stations surrounding me agreed the solution looked like blood, I said it looked like strawberry syrup in an attempt to remain optimistic.
Science, I love you again and our relationship can continue.

Me, Myself, and I.

I don't know what to do about... life. I set my expectations too high. That's good, though? That's how it ought to be. We need to set our expectations at a relatively heightened level so that we can have something to strive for, to work for. I have my dreams, I have my aspirations. Granted, sometimes I don't want to do the work, but when I put my goal back on the shelf, just in front of my face, I'll reach within myself and reestablish my stamina.
I want to be better. Better at relationships, better at academia, stronger, wittier, happier. That's human, right? We are on a constant, agonizing quest to improve ourselves.
I can be selfish. I talk too much about myself, tell too many stories. I've noticed a recurring phenomenon in my journal entries: "Shut up, don't talk so much. Listen." Listen to the stories of others, listen to what the world can offer you. Just rest your tongue on the roof of your mouth and open your ears. Yet, everyday, I am my usual talkative self. I cannot seem to relinquish my overwhelming sense of "me."

René Magritte. The Magician (Self-Portrait with Four Arms).
1952. Oil on canvas. 

I like being alone because I know I'm safe. There's no risk of conflict, no raised voices or passive aggressive behavior, no regret, or pain. I have internal conflict, yes, but I'll be able to reason it out because I know exactly what I'm thinking. Or, I'll always have the option of repositioning that conflict on the back burner for another day. It can just sit, simmering, until all of the vegetables have disintegrated and all that's left is a sort of easily-processed puree. A puree is much more pleasant to sip, in slow increments, than a chunky stew.  I can't do that with another person. External conflict can't be put on the back burner, and if left without heat or refrigeration, it will begin to fester.
I like to take the blame because I can punish me. I was terrible at babysitting because I could never really yell at the kids, or just say no, not going to happen. I like taking every responsibility for my actions, not those of others. My fear of relationships is that I often feel that I won't find time for another person, that I won't be able to offer my mind and my concern over to another human being. I guess it's kind of an existential worry. I am a little afraid of my sense of too-much-self, if that makes sense. When I go out with someone, I find that I'm aware more of myself than the person sitting with me. I'll adjust my seating position, calculate how often I should make eye-contact, consider what I ought to say next, in which direction the conversation should flow. I like group settings, because then I feel that a pressure has been lifted from my shoulders. It shouldn't be that way.
I despise my fear of being too close to other people, and I despise my idealism, but I guess reaching out and touching my goal of being better, even with the tips of my fingers, takes time. I just wish I didn't already have this selfishness, this lust for perfection, and this love for hiding and disconnection ingrained within my personality. If I weren't human, and I could change myself with a snap of my fingers, I definitely would.

Studying/More music.

How I procrastinate/zone-out when I study (ignore the videos, just enjoy the songs):

They're perfect for studying because they're so lo-fi and relaxing :)

Then We Came to the End.

The email has finally arrived, and apparently I don't have enough experience. It's understandable really. They don't want someone who's never worked in a legitimate lab before to work on a project of such importance, that could have a remarkable impact on the field of infectious diseases. They wouldn't want an amateur to be in the vicinity of pulmonary TB bacteria. They wouldn't want somebody like me, fresh from a general biology course with no immunological laboratory experience. I got the sense from the interview. He seemed disappointed in my lack of credentials.
 At least the lab gave me ample time to prepare myself for a let down. I won't turn to the bottle of sake for comfort. That should be saved for a better occasion and I have too much work to do.
I just wish that I had the opportunity to take part in something so magnificent. Maybe some other time.


Dear Sarah:

I am writing to inform you that we have chosen another student for the
position. Your application stood out and you seemed very enthusiastic, but
unfortunately we need someone with a little more background. I have no
doubt that you will pursue relevant fields of study and broaden your
familiarity with research methods and tools.

I think you have a great deal of potential and hope to see an application
from you for a future project once you have a little more experience.

Thank you very much for your time,
Michael Schump



And that's it. 

Organic Chemistry

"Aw, shit. Olivia!" I called out tentatively. I watched her look up from across the room. The large plastic lab goggles she was wearing  slightly slid down the small arch of her nose. Glancing down at my hand, I gently grasped the glass capillary between my forefingers and tugged. There was still some black residue around the miniscule hole the capillary left, and bright, red blood began oozing out against my pale hand.  

Maybe I'll be an author, or a columnist, or go to grad school for English and become a famous editor, I thought. If I'm going to stab myself with glassware tipped with poisonous substances, I probably shouldn't be working near any infectious diseases. So much for medical school.

"Yes? What happened?" she said breathlessly, she had been skidding around the lab trying to attend to every student's broken glassware and screwed up reactions. 

"I stabbed myself with a capillary." I said, bewildered.

"Was there palladium on it?"

"Yeeaaah."

She deftly grabbed my wrist and began guiding me toward the door. "It'll be okay, no worries, this happens." I felt like crying as we passed a couple of lab stations. Black, cold counter tops and hot sand baths in metal bowls. Students rushing around with too-big goggles on their faces and pipettes in their hands. Palladium's flammable, I thought, so really, this is no big deal right? My blood stream and water-logged tissues won't catch fire, right? 

"Wait, maybe not, this might be better." She whipped me around, her smaller, squatter body pulling on mine as we headed toward the nearest sink. "Okay, this may hurt, but I need to squeeze out some blood to get rid of the palladium."

"Alright," I said, a little dazed. She turned on the water, stuck my hand under the stream, and rubbed her thumb across the fresh hole in my skin. I felt the pressure and stared at the ugly corner of the sink. Those lab sinks are so... hardened looking... I wonder what those pipes have seen... Who knows what students have dumped in there.

"Does it hurt?"

"No."

The rest of the lab seemed to pass by at an extremely prolonged rate. My mouth was dry, and my stomach felt bloated from hunger, or from the lavash with peanut butter and apricot jam I had for lunch, I don't know. I felt like the black minute hand was taking a coffee break every ten seconds. Jerk.

About three quarters of the way through, Olivia enlightened me with the fact that I had thrown out the hexane solution that I was supposed to be using for the next portion of the experiment. I thought I had screwed up and done to the hexane solution what I was supposed to do to the aqueous solution. It turned out I had it right the entire time. I had thrown out the solution I needed. Oh well, I thought as she reminded me of her lecture to never throw anything out until the end, it's not like my reaction ran anyway.  It exploded partially in its little lovely test tube near the beginning of the experiment and gave up after that. My thermometer was skewed, so my sand bath overheated, causing the palladium mixture to rebel against its tiny enclosed environment.

Later, I squeezed the pipette bulb between my shaky fingers a little too soon. I missed the large test tube I was aiming for and spewed the ether solution (the last hope I had at making the experiment work) across my lab bench. A lump formed in my throat as I watched the large droplets quickly evaporate into the toxic air of the lab room. The pungent, noxiously fruity scent of ether flowed through my nostrils and I felt a little light-headed.

Ether is what the surgeons used during the civil war to put the soon-to-be-amputees out before cutting of their arm or leg, right? Maybe I'll inhale enough to pass out. I imagined the professor feeling so sorry for me and my collection of screw-ups that he'd let me do the lab again. No. Chance. And hence, not worth it.

My hands still stink of ether. It's probably embedded in my epidermis. I can totally foresee my skin smelling like this for about a week. 

I made it out, though! Only to check my phone and discover that I didn't get into the chemistry of cooking decal after all. Of course, I had a spot, but it didn't work out.

"Hi Sarah,

Here's what happened.  Since the person who dropped dropped after 2/4, I could only get your code to you by 2/5.

And because 2/4 is the deadline to add the class for free, telebears rejected your code.

If you don't mind paying the $5 late registration fee, our scheduler says that you should talk to your student services advisor and bring the CEC with you.  They should be able to add you. (Deadline for that is 2/18)  If you don't want to do that, you are of course welcome to audit the class.

Sorry for the delay,

Sami "

No problem, Sami. This way, I don't really have to do any of the experiments. I can just audit and do the work and attend the class for my own enjoyment. No. Problemo. Give me the carrot that I've been chasing on my pathetic little treadmill, then once I put the sweet vegetable between my teeth, take it way. 

Whatever. I'm sad, but that's life. I guess I'll audit. That's how Berkeley works, how any crammed, under-funded university would work. It's similar to my other ugly circumstance. I still don't know whether or not I've been accepted for that research position, but I probably didn't get it. At least this class isn't even my fault, I mean to say, it was completely out of my hands. I can't help the fact that I haven't taken Chem 3b yet, and that that's how the facilitators chose the original seats. I should still work with my group though. I wouldn't want to leave them anyway. I like them, they're cool people. We make blueberry and chocolate chip pancakes, speak in dorky accents, burn the pancakes, and eat whatever adequate product we come up with. That's it. I should have just eaten the 26 mg (the scale was off, there definitely wasn't that much) of product I came up with in lab today. Source of error: human consumption. Ha, I wonder what my GSI would say to that. At least the Psych department would get a new subject to study.

A Heavenly Tapestry: The Splendor of Downright Blunders and New Directions

How terrible is retrospect. Everything is clearer, right? Shoot, I should have made a list before I went to Trader Joe’s; if I had, I would not have bought copious amounts of food, mostly cookies, I do not need. I should have called my friend a little more often. If I had made an effort, we may still have a relationship. That interview would have gone so much more smoothly if I had opened the stupid link to that research paper rather than simply scanning the abstract. I should have given that guy a chance. Humans, by our character, will always make mistakes and form regrets. Ever notice how many songs are composed of repenting lyrics, or how many simply state, “I’m sorry?” We are human so we are not flawless. I find that the extremely annoying aspect of mistakes is that whatever we did seemed right at the time. There is no way we can just get everything right to eliminate the concept of past mistakes altogether. We can make an attempt to be perfect, yet perfection is most definitely unachievable, unless maybe you’re a demigod, but let us admit even Hercules and Gilgamesh had issues.  ‘Would haves’ and ‘should haves’ can certainly eat away at our contentment, so why is it that we cannot seem to simply drive those out of our minds? I do not believe that our mistakes are the devil working within us, but they can certainly be demons.  Thankfully, though, God has our demons weaved into his masterpiece.

Every moment I consider a mistake I have recently made, my stomach drops.  I feel as though I have been punched in the gut, and all of my breath has left the comfort of my alveoli before I have the chance to shout a pathetic, “unfair!” I let that horrid, despicable mistake disrupt my sleep, feed my migraines, consume my day and my happiness. I become enveloped in a winter of blunders. I try to count sheep as I wait patiently for rest to come, but what happens when the sheep begin jumping back over the fence once they have already been counted? Subtraction? No, thank you. I simply fall into a disgusting, murky abyss of regret, and the effluvium of my mistake is overwhelming. However, God develops an unexpected anecdote for my chill, often when and where I least expect it.

There is one house on a corner near my apartment that I absolutely relish passing. While I will usually hang my head while walking, I'll always lift my eyes once I reach the sidewalk juxtaposed against this house. If anything, it forces me to look up. The building itself has nothing special about it. Moreover, the avenue is overtaken by the house's greenery-- large, fanning leaves, voluptuous flowers, branches that extend outward to reach for any oncoming passerby, and blades of bright green grass that tickle the legs of those who dare to cross their path. It's like an Eden amongst the maze of houses, classrooms, apartments, labs, stresses, and lecture halls that Berkeley has to offer. Do not get me wrong, Berkeley is a beautiful place, but this tiny area in particular never fails to lift my spirits. I take a few steps and I'm suddenly in the rain forests of the Amazon, or maybe the Indian forests, like in Jungle Book. It is my little escape, if only for a few fleeting moments. The summer time brings out the best in this little arena. It brightens the greens and, if I look up through the widest leaves, I can trace the plant veins that are illuminated by brilliant sunlight.

“When the world was all covered with snow, I forgot the colors that the grass used to grow,” sings the lead singer of the band Noah and the Whale in their song “Shape of My Heart.” I realize that I forget the colors. My mistakes and regrets blanket my world with snow, and my memory of the majesty of life is lost. When we fear the repercussions of the mistakes we have made, everything seems dark and bleak, and those shadows can remain with us for years to come. But this gloom is simply the winter. There will always be a spring if we let it happen. Although I may forget to ask for forgiveness for my mistakes, God makes sure that my band-aid takes the form of a second chance, a new opportunity, or simply the support of my friends and family. “You will surely forget your trouble, recalling it only as waters gone by. Life will be brighter than noonday, and darkness will become like morning,” reads the Bible (Job 11:16-17). We just need to be aware in order to recognize his hints of forgiveness or his artistic redirection.

I am no quilter, but I like to think that our mistakes are just another vivid addition to the gigantic quilt that the Lord is sewing with his amiable quilting group. He will chat with a bunch of old ladies (most likely our relatives) about his day of guiding life and making plans. Once the quilt is sewn, he will display it, like a tapestry, so that we may observe it in all of its glory. It shall be boldly titled, “Whoever’s Quilt: Mistakes, Achievements, and Overall Existence.” Or at least that is how I would like to envision it. I am confident there will be some repetition on my quilt because I have unquestionably made a few mistakes twice. There will be that time I scarcely studied for my first organic chemistry midterm and failed. A small, richly embroidered patch will contain an exact, thread-borne replication of my neighbor, who used to supply my brother and me with Twix bars and delicious, dinosaur-shaped cookies. My neighbor who never failed to give us a birthday card with five dollars nestled in its fold, who displayed portraits of us in her hospital room, who I should have gotten to know before she passed away.  Some patches will be filled with gray, miserable fabric, like the decay of winter. Yet, God and I will gaze at my quilt and appreciate its detail and beauty, and I will praise him on the stunning work he has deftly constructed.

When our mistakes ruin our day, when they blind us to the splendor of living and of God, when they keep us awake at night; then they form into satanic, ugly little things. Everybody makes mistakes, everybody fails. That’s called living.  The bible reads “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9). In other words, our mistakes open new opportunities for God to work through us. Life is hard. It is difficult to determine whether or not the events of our life is indeed God’s plan, but really, the best we can do is trust in God, and know that he is steering us in the correct direction—that his quilting needle is working with purpose. We need to relinquish ourselves and fall into God’s grace. I personally wrestle with this concept, especially considering that I am a self-proclaimed control freak. But here it is, simply stated, in the Bible, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; ⁶ in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight,” in Proverbs 3:5-6. Alright, this is no excuse to stop trying altogether. We cannot refuse to study for the MCAT and still expect God to find us a spot in Harvard Medical School, or walk late at night around Downtown Berkeley, without BearWalk, expecting God to protect us. Yet, it is pleasant to know that He is holding our hand as we meander aimlessly throughout our attempt at being human. God created man imperfect, but brilliantly imperfect. The peculiar, seemingly flawed works of art often emerge above the rest. Picasso, for instance, created incredibly distinctive paintings that will forever be etched into the minds of humanity.  The Mona Lisa has no eyebrows, yet if she had some she would probably be just one more Italian woman. Without mistakes, we would not learn, we would not relish our symbolic springtime, and life would lose its beauty. For if we were absolutely flawless our quilt would lose its interest—our painting its character. 

Problem-Solving

I guess I've come to the conclusion that, really, there are more important things out there than whether or not I get that research position. There will be others. Yes, people have told me this quite often, but I needed to mull it over and realize it for myself. I'll get to where I want to go somehow, even if my path is obscure. I have no medical condition. I'm going to dinner with my family in ten minutes (Ethiopian food). I have friends, a roof over my head, an abundance of food (especially carbs), and an amazing university that I easily walk to and attend every single day.
What's important to me? What's important to me is knowing what is going on within people, and how to fix it. Everybody's broken, in one way or another, so why can't we repair them? I'm speaking both in the physical and emotional sense. Our mission on this earth ought to be how to spread the love we have for one another, for humanity. I could get all spiritual. I could throw in God, and say we are meant to spread God's love, but it's definitely deeper than that. Anybody, even the most devout Atheist (ironic, right? but so true) should be in it for the long haul when it comes to showing people what love and caring for one another is truly about. Believe me, I hate being preachy, but how many people go about their lives thinking of nobody other than superficial, self-absorbed things (Herb and Frank for example ;)?

That's what doctors and researchers do, right? They're problem-solvers.

They'll Say No.

Interviews suck. They always fail to get a point across. I'm terrible at organizing my thoughts in person, especially when I'm meant to discuss situations I've never before encountered. Situations that take experience. I don't know much about immunology. I've simply taken a two biology courses with a small section upon the subject. Do I know what I want? NO. I want to do something meaningful, something with molecular biology. But, how am I meant to decide when I've barely touched the surface of the field. The majority of the classes I've taken are chemistry-based. Of course I would be interested in biochemistry, that's essentially all I know. THERE'S SO MUCH MORE OUT THERE. There's immunology, there's genetics, there's biochem, there's neuro for God's sake. I'm supposed to be passionate about a field. I'm only twenty. I have yet to take an upper-division science course. Shit, I have yet to have a BOYFRIEND.
I'm passionate about changing the world in some way. I'm passionate about making a place for myself in history, in scientific literature (upon what, I have no idea). I'm passionate about traveling, about fixing myself, and about caring for others. Shoot, I'm passionate about my oatmeal every morning for breakfast. How the hell am I supposed to convey my passion for science and discoveries in an audible, comprehensive form when I'm in an interview setting. When all I can think about is: "Wow, he just used a lot of terminology that I have yet to learn, and THIS IS SO COOL! I just want this position so bad." He probably thought I was simply interested in inflating my resume, or he must have assumed that I was getting in way over my head.
I was speechless. I was in awe of all that the lab had to offer. I was astounded at the accomplishments of that professor, of my interviewer, of the lab itself and its researchers. I just want to be something. I have no experience, but I want some. Doesn't he realize that? Doesn't he realize that I'm so young, and I have so much ahead of me-- so much to learn, so much to experience?
Yes, it's out of my hands. There's nothing I can do. But what if that next kid walks in, spouts out all of their research about the lab, spouts out exactly what the lab has accomplished so far, tells that interviewer all about the research that the freaking student has yet to participate in. I should have researched more about the topics, but even if I had, what would that do? The guy went on about EVERYTHING that the lab was doing and the prior research the professor had published. I probably wouldn't have gotten one word in edgewise. There may be other opportunities, but what if I want this one? I'm interested in medical research and global health. I want to be a part of that.
How am I supposed to become participate in the scientific community... if nobody wants me?

Mission Control, We've Made Contact.

It's interesting how, no matter how many people fill a room, it's so easy to feel so incredibly lonely. Many of us spend the majority of our lives in relatively little company-- two or three close friends, maybe three family members. Most of the time, even in a crowded library, it's simply (to follow the saying) me, myself, and I (is it pathetic that I kind of hope that somebody will approach me to initiate a conversation?). I eat lunch alone, I work out alone, I sit in my room alone. Even in my crowded apartment, I'll feel like the most desolate person. However, singularity does have its many advantages. Meditation in a group is generally unproductive. You can't really look inside yourself if the eyes of ten others could be upon you, or at least I can't. Maybe that's just me. I am a little paranoid after all. Neither can you really get anything purposeful accomplished, academically speaking at least. I can't read a novel with three other people, nor could I write this posting without being alone.
The thought of groups usually stresses me out. Group work? Gross. Ironically though, once I'm actually in the group situation, I'm not bothered. Unless it's a party with over fifteen people, then I get a little overwhelmed. I know this sounds terrible, but the worst group situation might possibly be church events. I love the people, but it's incredibly bewildering when you love everyone and you want to say hi to everyone and ask how they're doing and your friends are trying to talk to you and there's that cute guy in the corner you've always wanted to talk to but there's so much noise and if you don't talk to that girl you haven't seen for two weeks you risk never talking to her again or maybe even hurting her feelings and those sorority girls seem so judgmental so should you try talking to them at all? Ugh, then I just unzip a Sarah-sized hole in the earth, crawl in, and sit in the fetal position. But, when it's just a few close friends, it can be the best thing ever.
Is it sad that I almost feel like I have to keep a time-clock to hang out with people? I punch my card, go get coffee with two friends, clock out, and get back to my life as an individual. I earned some overtime by going out every night last weekend. Long vacations though can be the most depressing time ever. One summer, in middle school, I didn't see anybody. I saw my family at night, but during the day I was alone. I didn't talk to any of my friends. I left the face of the earth and played video games for hours on end. As a consequence, I fell into a deep depression and almost began counseling sessions.
We thrive on human contact. I don't understand how hermits can do it, unless they have multiple personalities. Granted, I don't understand socialites either. Silence can be golden.
When I haven't seen anybody for a while, I scour Facebook and pretend I have a social life.  Perhaps that's why such a majority of the population can spend hours on Facebook at a time. They look for reassurance that there are other people in the world. They post their statuses because they have no real person to tell about their day, or that incredibly delicious coffee drink and scone they indulged in.  Alone. I usually get annoyed by Facebook-- not only because it wastes my time, but also because I am reminded that other people are out there being social, taking pretty pictures, and apparently having a good time. Yes, yes, this is rather hypocritical and shallow on my part, and again it's one of my many faults that I'm working on. Sadly, though, I've always felt like being outgoing and purposefully surrounding yourself by friends at all hours of the day is only a matter of social convention. We form groups because that's what people are supposed to do. The cool people always seem to be surrounded by people, right? But then again, I think the true reason ought to be, and perhaps is, that we converge simply because we enjoy the company of others. They are stress reducers. They keep our mind off of the wrongs of the world and our obligations to work and school. My depression stems from my forming a black bubble of terror and anguish that grows the longer I allow my mind to eat away at itself. Seeing other people reminds us how to be quick-witted and how to empathize. Seeing other people reminds us how to be human.

Our Fallen Leaf Brethren.

Photos in this post not taken from the internet... for once :)

If one glances at the sidewalk in Berkeley, particularly up in North Berkeley, or in more residential areas, one would notice spectacular leaf stains decorating the concrete. Definitely reminiscent of by-gone days of leaf imprinting in elementary school, or perhaps a high school biology class, the stains impart a delicate glory that seems to appear just for the end of winter. They could be present all of the time, and I just haven't noticed them before, but they are especially distinct recently. Maybe it's because I've been walking rather than biking. Hence, I've had many more opportunities to stare blankly at my feet as I trudge to class and my sight has traveled to the many shadows that the leaves have traced along the path.

They are delicately beautiful, these stains. The mementos of autumn and winter. In memoriam: the leaves of the past, left to reside forever (figuratively speaking) upon the cold concrete.
How appreciable they truly are. They remind us, remind me at least, that there is beauty in the world. In this school that can often serve as a prison, there is a God. In this community whose social hierarchy obscures what we ought to truly care for, there is a hope. In this world, in which mothers are diagnosed with tumors of the stomach, fathers die of brain cancer, children are forced to wield automatic weapons, and human beings collapse from malnutrition, there is a promise of heaven and forgiveness.

There is one house on a corner near my apartment that I absolutely relish passing. While I will usually hang my head while walking, I'll always lift my eyes once I reach the sidewalk juxtaposed against this house. If anything, it forces me to look up. The building itself has nothing special about it. Moreover, the avenue is overtaken by the house's greenery-- large, fanning leaves, voluptuous flowers, branches that extend outward to reach for any oncoming passerby, and blades of bright green grass that tickle the legs of those who dare to cross their path. It's like an Eden amongst the maze of houses, classrooms, apartments, labs, and lecture halls that Berkeley has to offer. Don't get me wrong, Berkeley is a beautiful place, but this tiny area in particular never fails to lift my spirits. I take a few steps and I'm suddenly in the rain forests of the Amazon, or maybe the Indian forests, like in Jungle Book. It's my little escape, if only for a few fleeting moments. The summer time brings out the best in this little arena. It brightens the greens and, if I look up through the widest leaves, I can trace the plant veins that are illuminated by brilliant sunlight.
But how can nature, how can God, give us peace when He often destroys the people we love, or is writing the end of earth's history? Nature gives life, God gives life, and both bring death. They go hand-in-hand, because God is nature. A gorgeous view of, say, a mountainous scene turned brilliantly gold by a sunrise encompasses God's glory. Likewise, could destruction be seen as God-given as well? He can give and he can take away. A friend of mine once noted, and I completely agree, that the terrible things that happen are God's way of reminding us that there is good in the world. A loved one dies, and a family comes together in such a way that they are nearly unstoppable.  It's like those images that sometimes surface, with the "We shall overcome" quote, of a tree sapling rising from the ashes. The leaf stains, too, are God's reminder. Yes, the shadows of the past do exist, and the memories of our losses remain, but if we happen to glance upward a bevy of dazzling, green leaves is there to greet us.

x-ray crystallography

There truly is a beauty about x-ray crystallography. That a minute protein, capable of catalyzing chemical reactions, can be elucidated in such a way that scientists can view the twists and turns of its amino acids never fails to astound me. That Linus Pauling was a genius. He invented it right? I think so.
I've always been fascinated by the biochemical and the immunological. The differentiation of T-cells. The apoptosis of invading pathogens as the natural killer cell injects its poisons.
How fragile the human body is.
John Keats died of tuberculosis. He will never be forgotten. My historical lover.
The flicker of a candle as it sits in an open tin jar, vaporizing the oils to emit a scent that languidly radiates the room with the slight smell of rose petals.
What does it take to play the violin? Pure determination?
I feel like I live for other people, and I don't want to, but it just happens.
People say that history paints the future, but can the future be mapped out? No.

Is there a time to be a bitch?

Alright, apparently there are no followers and I doubt there ever will be (I know, I'm an optimist) sooo, I'll just use this to organize my thoughts and to write for pure enjoyment.
Question: Is there ever a time to be bitchy? Do we ever have the right? I've never thought so personally, but recently my mind has leaned toward the wayside and I've concluded that maybe we do. Last semester, I made friends. Crazy, right? One I had known the previous semester via a mutual friend, and one I met in my physics discussion. The physics guy and I, let's name him Herb (I doubt he'll ever read this, he doesn't read much... but as a precaution we'll give him an alias), met when I introduced myself to him. I thought he was cute, and I heard him say that he was a music minor, which bumped him up on the cute scale, so I sat next to him and asked, "What instrument do you play?" And of course, knowing my luck, the guy ended up being a jackass. I thought he was cool for a few weeks, then, either because he became more comfortable with me or I with him, I soon found out that he was an arrogant, womanizing, self-centered, genuine jerk. Believe me, I could have used stronger language. So, Herb and my other "friend," let's call the other guy "Fred," soon developed a friendship of their own. They talked constantly in class, they would ask me to come study with them, then they would spend the study session talking about boobs and sex. Herb would say, "you know what? I'm a Christian so I can't have sex right? I'm missing out on so much! Why am I waiting? It's a screwed up system, I just want to bang a girl." I just had to sit there and send mental hate messages. The entire situation climaxed (no pun intended) in my last physics lecture. There was this guy, a really cute, intelligent, definition-of-cool guy who I always admired from a distance but was often too shy to talk to. That last day, I decided to sit next to him.
"Oh God," he said.
"What?" I asked.
"Are your friends coming?"
"I hope not."
"Man, they better not, they're soooo annoying."
I was mortified. Caesar (yes, another alias) obviously did not want me anywhere near him, because he knew that wherever I sat, my friends would follow. It. Sucked. My stomach dropped and I wanted to cry as I sat by waiting and praying that neither Herb nor Fred would show up. But, sure enough, they did. Herb, did I mention he was in nearly every one of my classes?, sat right next to me, picked up on my hate vibe, and said, "What's your problem? You seem pissed. You used to be cool. Are you sad?" Blah blah blah. "SHUUUT UPPP!!!!" Okay, no, I didn't say that, but I wanted to. Instead, I was just utterly cool with him and gave him short, one word answers. And at the end of class, I turned to Caesar and said, "Happy? They were quiet." "Yeah," he said. And left. I see him around, but he hasn't spoken with me since then.
To sum up, I feel like an idiot. Just that Caesar associated me with Herb and Fred, with people like that, stupid frat boys, that everybody  must have associated me with them. I'm not like that. I'm a nerd, I'm nice, I'm smart, or at least I like to hope I am...
Bitches.
Soooo, I made a promise to myself that I would disassociate from them. I had a plan. I would sit in the front, where they never sat, and I would avoid them at all costs. Yet, of course, come this semester, Biology 1B, Herb found me. He sat right next to me in the room adjacent to the lecture hall that people who were late were forced into so that we could watch the webcasted lecture. And he talked, and talked, and repeatedly asked what my problem was, and asked if I was angry because I wasn't in the actual lecture hall, "you would be," he said. And so, my bitchy moment came. "No, I just hate it when people talk so much to me when it's eight o' clock in the morning." "Douche-bag," he said. And that was it. I hope he got the idea. I'm over him, I can't stand him, his face, his condescending attitude.
But is that okay? I don't really feel like it was, but I guess it's the price I have to pay for befriending him in the first place.
I don't think anyone deserves to be spoken rudely to and I know I don't have the right to speak like that to anyone. But is it okay if it's for my own sanity? The Christian act would have been to just put up with it and perhaps voice my disagreement when Herb and Frank spoke like idiots. That would have been the right thing to do. It's just so hard to truly define what is right when it applies to my own sanity, but I guess if I look at it that way, that's just shows how selfish I am.

Are we weird?

This video really got me thinking.
http://vimeo.com/15995250

Wonderful, wonderful things.

Etsy.com is my new favorite site for gifts. Everything they offer is handmade, incredibly unique and whimsical. Love. It.

And of course, Anthropologie will forever hold a special place in my heart.

Especially the jacket.

Aaaand planning for a new haircut on Monday, I'm thinking blonde highlights (I haven't gone blonde in a long time) and side bangs. I wish I could do something like Zooey Deschanel, but I've done the dark hair look and I don't think I'll be able to pull that off again.

Sooo I'm thinking something more like this:

 We'll see how that goes. My hair is thinner, slightly redder, and slightly darker than this, but this'll be the general idea. Hopefully. I hate my hair. It's thin, there's fly-aways, there are baby hairs around the side of my face. I feel like it'll never work for me. Believe me, if I could beat it into submission I would. I just wish it were thicker. I think I have the smallest pony-tail in the world and it consistently looks like a forty-year old's hair. We'll see what my beautician can do, but it seems to me like a lost cause. Really, if you think about it, hair is a strange thing. We are the only animals that actually grow their hair long-- a strange evolutionary trait if you ask me. We uniquely style our hair, change its color, and put things in it. For God's sake, I saw a girl at the midnight Christmas service with tinsel weaved into her hair.  I love bobby-pins personally, they aid in that classic, hipster, adorable up-do that I try to (unsuccessfully) achieve.

Eh. I could probably pull off something like the image with the flower bobby pins above, which I absolutely adore. Hand-made flower hair pieces, sooo pretty.